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Response to Rishi Sunak saying misgendering trans people is ‘common sense’

Mikki Tiamo — Thu, 05 Oct 2023 13:46:03 +0000

After the Prime Minister, Rishi Sunak’s party conference speech this week, 4th October 2023, saying that misgender transgender people is ‘common sense’, I find myself feeling unsafe in my own country for the first time in my life.

Pink News: Rishi Sunak says misgendering trans people is ‘common sense’ in Tory conference speech.

He said “we shouldn’t get bullied into believing that people can be any sex they want to be, they can’t a man is a man and a woman is a woman that’s just common sense” and the sickophantic seals at the conference applauded!

So Rishi, when you look at me and some of my friends who have been transitioning for a while, what do you see?

His full speech is here: Rishi Sunak’s full speech from Conservative Party Conference in Manchester – Wales Online and if you feel the desire to watch it then thats available here: (341) Rishi Sunak speech on HS2, education reforms and smoking – YouTube

This is for a number of reasons.

The first and main reason is that the transphobic part of our society will now see Rishi Sunak’s speech as carté blanche to now purposely, misgender every trans person that they see.

Sadly, this may involve some cisgender people experiencing hate as well because they maybe perceived as transgender.

I am hoping that this does not happen to me and also that it doesn’t become a common occurrence, but I have made up my mind that if this does happen and I am misgendered, by a professional person, such as a police officer or medical professional, I will stand my ground and fight my corner!

Even if this means that I am arrested for what I do or say thereafter!

If this happens from a member of the general public or even a friend, then I will ignore them quicker than they can click their fingers.

If it’s a work colleague then I will raise this with their HR departments or the person who ultimately pays my wage which is the owner of the company. I would even withdraw my services from this customer if needed!

I know some people may say, “well this is just my opinion”, but in today’s society you would not call a black person a n***** or somebody from the middle East and p**** anymore. So why should a transgender person be expected to take abuse for the same thing?

Nobody knows what I have been through in my life to reach a point where I first of all felt safe, and also felt happy transitioning from male to female. Plus you have no idea of the heartache, anguish, anxiety, soul searching, and mental anguish that I have gone through to get to this stage in my life.

Just so that I can be happy and a functioning member of society!!!

We have the prime minister of the United Kingdom standing on a stage and say anti transgender things in a public forum and saying that being anti transgender is acceptable! This is both morally and societally unacceptable and those that think this is right are perhaps the ones with a mental disorder.

Then on the same day the Secretary of State for Health and Social Care, Steve Barclay, say that trans people will not be allowed on hotel wards for treatment on the ward of their chosen gender. Meaning that I would not be allowed on a woman’s ward for treatment.

Now I hope that medical professionals see sense here and are not going along with this guidance, as there was already legislation passed in 2021 (NHS guidance issued in 2021 said trans people may be placed on wards according to the gender they identify as.)

As far as I am aware there have been no incidence of transgender people causing issues on the ward of their chosen gender in the past and also placing trans people in private rooms will further strain an already broken NHS.

This poses the question, which ward would I be put in if I was having gender affirming surgery?

The second major reason I no longer feel safe in the UK is because I see the Conservative government becoming more and more fascist in the way that it deals with the general public at large.

These comments by our prime minister and the proposal changes is putting the health and well-being of the transgender population in jeopardy

All of this rhetoric aimed at the transgender community, which I hasten to add is only 0.39% of the entire UK population (2022 census results. Population of 67.33 million and 262000 people identifying as transgender or non-binary). This rhetoric is making it more difficult for people like myself to live our lives.

Also this kind of legislation also puts a strain on our society but it’s also going to impact the lives of non-transgender people as every masculine woman or feminine man is going to be viewed very differently by our society and how long before this abuse spills over to those not viewed as perfect in Rishi’s society?

I honestly do not know what the Tories are trying to achieve by victimizing the transgender community when nearly all the transgender people I know just want to live their lives. Something which the non-transgender community is free to do with impunity.

It is already hard enough to live in this country as a transgender person and I must admit that I have actually looked at moving away from this country to a safer place.

Me moving overseas would not only impact on my life, but it would also impact on the lives of my companies suppliers, subcontractors, customers and even the UK treasury itself, as my business pays tax in the UK.

I am prepared to move overseas if the Transmisia that is appearing in the UK continues and believe me this has not been an easy decision to make because I do love the United Kingdom.

So, I say to Rishi Sunak and the Tory Party that you are a bunch of cunts and you would not have treated any other minorities in the way that you are treating the transgender community today.

Your words are vile and you should know that the harder you push me as a transgender person, the harder I will push back, be that through my activism or if the need arises via criminal actions.

I am honestly no longer scared to be arrested for standing my ground against rules and measures brought in against the transgender community and ultimately myself.

Therefore should I experience any kind of hate on mistreatment from any public body or service I will pursue them to the full extent of my ability and legal recourse.

I will also never again in my life vote Conservative, and I await the day that my local tory MP knocks on my door looking for my support because she, Fiona Bruce, and her supporters will get the metaphoric both barrels.

What was said by the prime minister I find utterly abhorrent and as I’ve said before there is no way that they would have said this to any other minority in this once great country.

You and the Tory party have taken another step closer to a fascist society and shown your true colours! Brown!

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Gender Clinic and taking things into your own hands

Mikki Tiamo — Thu, 09 Feb 2023 00:38:10 +0000

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and research recently about the gender clinic waiting times and the service that they provide.

As many of you will know I’m on the waiting list to see the gender clinic specialist and was referred by my GP in early 2020.

The particular gender clinic I have been referred to is currently seeing people who were referred by their GP’s in 2018, which means the likelihood of me being seen by the gender clinic before 2025 is highly unlikely.

The waiting list for gender clinics gets longer and longer every year and some people may think that there is probably more and more people being referred but this is only part of the story.

The way the gender clinic works is they are not just seeing a person once and then passing them onto to another person within the NHS, the aim is to build a rapport with the patient before recommending what course of treatment they require. Be this ejection from the service, hormone replacement therapy or even surgery.

Time between the first appointment and the second appointment maybe many many months. This is after you’ve waited probably years to see a specialist!

This means that processing of patients is extremely slow. More so, if the referred patients is under the age of 18.

However, anyone under the age of 18 is usually referred to a specialist clinic such as Tavistock.

But, the system is about to be put under more pressure as this specialist clinic is due to close this year.

The reasons sighted for it’s closure is as follows:

“An independent review condemned the clinic as “not a safe or a viable long-term option” because its interventions are based on poor evidence and its model of care leaves young people “at considerable risk” of poor mental health. The clinic must close by Spring 2023.”

Personally I’d say that by closing the clinic this exposes people to greater risk the my keeping the service open and improving it!

However, the Tory party are anti-trans and seek to eradicate transgender people from society.

But repairing things in this country is not the done thing anymore.

More information about this closure can be found at this website :

https://segm.org/UK_shuts-down-worlds-biggest-gender-clinic-for-kids.

In reality the closure of this clinic is just going to put more stress on the other clinics who will be required to take up the slack of this now closing clinic.

Longer waiting lists

This will lengthen the waiting lists even more and it would not suprise me if patients using and waiting for Tavistock get lost in the transfer!

This is just my personal opinion but I would love to know what goes on in the psyche of NHS management that close parts of its service when the standard of care falls below that which is required.

Why do this instead of fixing this failure within that service?

Perhaps somebody can tell me why?

Others I know, as I, are now seeking help outside the health service because of the waiting list times which are inturn adding pressure to the private clinics and some of the services I use have got longer waiting times than in years gone by.

Now, if you are reading this and asking yourself should I go private? Then all I will say is, if you can afford it, then yes.

Yes because….

The benefits to your mental health are immeasurable compared to the detriment of waiting for the NHS to provide you an appointment.

That’s because your not waiting for the NHS to provide you with a service but to provide you with an appointment!

There is a massive difference.

Will it benefit you financially?

Definitely not! But which do you value more?

Please don’t forget that even once you have an appointment to see an NHS specialist the likelihood of you getting the treatment that you require is remote or will not be quick.

If you need to go and speak to somebody, then pay to go and speak to somebody!

If you need to self medicate, self medicate. Find the clinic who will assess you and provide you with the treatment that you require.

It’s also a good idea to keep going to your doctors, keep speaking to your doctor and if your doctor doesn’t listen change doctors!

The financial cost of going private for me far outways the mental health issues of waiting for the NHS to tick a box to tell me what I can do with my body and maybe offer help! Maybe!

A lot of my trans friends who are further down the road than I, have all paid for their treatment. We are not a burden on the NHS despite what the media may tell you.

Weigh up your options, do your research, speak to your GP and get their opinion (and it will be an opinion*) and once you have all this information make an informed choice.

* Your GP is a general practitioner. The key is in the name, and many of the doctor’s I have spoken to over the past 3 years know very little about transgender people.

I do not want to cast aspersions on GP’s in general but when the doctor you are sat in front of says that I’m remarkably well informed, it means that they probably aren’t!

Your GP is the gatekeeper to NHS services not the healer of all ills!

Do what’s best for you and I’ll repeat that, do what is best for you!

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