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I’ve been to the doctors again today to have my blood pressure checked and yet again they’re calling me by my dead name.

I go in and give them my name and they eventually find me on the system and then immediately call me by my dead name. Immediately!!!!!!!

I ignore her, completely not responding.

The receptionist says my dead name again and again I ignore her.

Only then does she call me by the name I’ve given her on my arrival!

You fucking arsehole!

I’ve seen the screen today with my details on it and it still says my dead name at the top of the screen and immediately underneath are the words: Preferred name, which has my new name. This is actually in bold letters, larger than my real name and in a dark blue colour!

Now, checked in I go sit down and wait for the nurse.

Many minutes later

The nurse comes out and shouts out my dead name. I ignore her, she must know it’s me as I’m the only one there, but she disappears into her room again and comes out about 30 seconds later and shouts again for my dead name. I look at her and shake my head!

Again, she disappears.

When she comes out again, she shouts out my correct name. I say “hello” and stand and follow her into the examination room.

Annoyingly she then asks me, do you prefer Mikki or dead name?

“What do you think?” says I. She tuts!

“So, we’re here to do your blood pressure”, she says.

Yes, my optician reported I had discoloration of one of my retina in August last year.

I think it might be sky high now, I say. After being dead named several times I feel very angry right now.

She takes me blood pressure and its high.

I talked to the nurse for about 15 minutes about the practices inability to change my name despite hand delivering two copies of my deed poll. I kind of get the feeling she either doesn’t care or thinks it’s my fault they’ve lost two copies of my deed poll certificate.

Anyway, they’re still deadnaming me and after she takes my blood pressure again, I still have high blood pressure.

My doctors want me to stop HRT immediately!

Well, that’s not happening, and as my doctors don’t prescribe my hormones or provide any healthcare related to those hormones they have no control over them. No chance I’m stopping this!

Also, my doctors want to provide me statins which if anyone too the time to read my notes will know these will make me ill!

Another slow hand clap and the blood test form they sent me 2 days later still had my dead name on it.

Roll on 4th August when I can apply for my GRC and then change doctors!

Update: I’ve taken my deed poll in again and waved it at reception.

I won’t leave another copy there, so I made them photocopy it.

Place your bets on whether it makes any difference.

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