Nearly got the shit kicked out of me

Today, Nov 26th, 2021, I made a bit of a mistake in defending myself and I nearly got the shit kicked out of me by a group of big brave Asian lads. Ironically said!!!

I was in Stoke today, I don’t like Stoke (Hanley), it’s got bad memories plus some of the worst transphobic and homophobic abuse I’ve had have been in Stoke.

If you live in Stoke I apologise but it’s my personal opinion/experience.

I occasionally work there and today was one of those days and I’d finished at 11 am and decided to get myself a McD’s and called into the branch in the city centre.

On I walked in, its empty bar four Asian lads sitting near the door and a group of builders sat on the opposite side of the restaurant.

As I walk in one of the Asian lads says to me, “Alright darling, do you want to come back to mine for a good time?”

I didn’t reply and carried on walking.

What appears I’d invertedly done by minding my own business is offered him and his mates an invitation to come over and abuse me.

I was placing my order on the screen as far away from them as possible in the store, but the same lad comes over, stands behind me and says “Whatcha ordering?” and gooses me!

gerund or present participle: goosing
1. poke (someone) in the bottom.”

I turned and pushed him quite hard away from me, and shouted: “What the f-ing hell do you think you’re doing?”

This got quite a violent reaction and I see a fist clench.

“Leave me alone, not interested!”

As I’m wearing a pair of high heels, I’m in no position for a fistfight.

He shouts “How fing dare you fing push me away, like! What you doing you fing stupid bitch!”

I look round and notice his mates have now stood up and another one is walking over to me.

I also notice that the builders have all stopped talking and are looking at us.

“I’m fng talking to you bitch” and he pushes me again.

“f off, go away!” I say.

Taking a step back I hear one of the builders shout “Leave her alone” and one of them stands up.

This asian lad turns to them and says “Fuck off dickhead, I was talking to her”

I step out of my heels so I am now barefoot in the middle of the restaurant.

Again he turns to me and says “Who do you think you are, what you doing? I’ll kick your ass you stupid bitch”

I’m now ready to punch this arsehole but again I hear the builders shout “Oy, dickhead. Leave her the fuck alone or i’ll fill you and your mates in”

All the builders have now stood up and a number of the staff are also now standing at the counter.

The manager shouts over, “You need to leave, we’re calling the police”

These Asian lads have now started a retreat but as they start to walk out the door one of them spits on the floor in front of me,  and they’re all shouting abuse at all in the restaurant.

One of the builders comes over to me and says “Are you okay duck?” I nod and start to put my shoes back on.

The manager comes over and says “Don’t worry we’ve got them on CCTV. Come over here and sit down”

The builders are also standing next to me and are making comforting noises and ushering me to sit down.

“Bunch of dickheads, bellends, etc. You alright?”

I sit down and the manager asks me what I’d like to eat and drink. I barely mumble what I want, and he disappears.

Everyone asks me if I’m alright. I am. A little shaken and the adrenalin has kicked in, my heart is going 10,000 beats a minute and I’m shaking!

I’ve been in that situation before and the last time I ended up fighting my way out which ended with me battered and bruised and a night in A&E!

My coffee arrives and I take the cup and hold it in both hands. I really now want out of here but am now the center of attention. This is the last place I want to be and when the police arrive the next 40 minutes are a blur as statements are taken from everyone.

Absolutely ruined my day, week and month if I’m honest and I have great sympathy for anyone this has happened to.

Its also affected me when there are a re large groups about but only in Stoke!

Media portrayal of Transgender people

As the transgender community is in the media spotlight at the moment, Oct 2021, I wanted to discuss the media portrayal of Transgender people and I’m going to discuss the difference between transgender celebrities versus how it treats regular transgender people and how we are perceived in the media.

First, let’s look at the celebs, and I’m going to discuss Eddie Izzard, who is a massive hero of mine, and a role model for many people. The way the media treat Izzard is completely different from the way the media treats regular non-celebrity trans people such as me.

Why does the media have two different opinions of a group of people other than elitism because of Izzard’s social class? I am no different from Izzard in my transition process and the way I am dealing with things, other than one person is rich and in the media, while I am not. Is there a bigger picture I am missing??

First of all let’s take the article written below, by the Guardian. It is hard to read this and not think the newspaper is holding up Izzard as some kind of, not only a god-like figure but some hero-type figure. Yes, I fully appreciate that Izzard does a lot of work for charity, (Applauds), and I’m not being funny here but, if my bank was such as hers then I would probably spend my time doing something a bit more productive than working, such as helping my fellow Transgender people.

Here, it is not Izzard herself that is my issue, it is the way, that the media, portray the rest of the transgender world compared to trans people like Izzard, Caitlyn Jenner, etc.

Even the way the media talks to trans celebrities is kind of condescending and I would probably take exception with some of the questions Izzard is asked in this interview for the Guardian newspaper. Especially the title, irrespective of whether she has boob envy or not!

If you’re a celebrity and you’re out as transgender then the rules of Media seem to be very different from those of your average transgender person in the street.

The way that we on the street, the so-called “great unwashed Trans people”, are talked about, and the way that the services that we require are portrayed in the media is also very different. There are many articles listed below where these services are belittled, berated, and sometimes paraded as unnecessary! It does nothing for the Media portrayal of Transgender people.

You only have to look at the political parties at the moment who are holding up Trans people in the way they held up other minorities in the past!

I’m surprised I’ve not seen signs outside B&B’s saying, Sorry, No DSS, No Dogs, No Trans. The press side with whoever shouts the loudest and the political parties can’t decide how they should vilify us, berate or belittle the trans community and the media are quick to report on these Trans issues in any way which helps them sell their newspapers/subscriptions.

And then we have both major parties in the past week having internal spats going on about Trans people with Labour MP Rosie Duffield spreading falsehoods about trans people (yes, Trans People are people) and this has meant she has been criticised by others in her own party for her views, but not by the Leader, Keir Starmer.

Then we’ve got the Conservatives, sorry Tories.

The party who have given a voice to the anti trans pressure group, the LGB Alliance at their annual conference in Manchester. No doubt because the LGB Alliance has given the Tory party money! Forget your principles, here’s some money! Or maybe I’m wrong and the Tories invited them there because their views/policies align with the LGB Alliance?

I will write about my view on the LGBA soon but I will state here and now, people should be able to express themselves, dress as they wish and have control of their bodies as long as it doesn’t harm others in any way. Plus my sexuality is no one’s business but my gender is visible to all, every day of my life.

I hate that the media portrays Trans people as freaks to be made fun of or have fingers pointed at. I have fought with my conscience about who I am and being trans for 47 years of my life and admitting to myself and seeking professional help has led to me 4 years later being the happiest, the most productive, and most helpful I have been in my entire life. A sentiment repeated by lots of trans people I have met.

The process I have been through has also made me Asexual and I absolutely resent the implication in the media that I am some kind of pervert who looks under toilet stall doors. Honestly, this is what transphobic people do, I’ve had it done to me!

Can you imagine now if the very same media which pokes fun at Trans people now held up the same stick in their treatment of our Trans celebrities!?

The media is very quick to “Out” celebrities but at the same time is also quick to distance these celebrities for the vitriol and bile they reserve for the non-celeb classes.


Media portrayal of Transgender people related links

Why we’re worried about the Government’s statement on trans rights legislation

Where does the British public stand on transgender rights?

Gender Recognition Act 2004

1 in 7 trangender people have been refused care by GP in the UK

Labour’s Transphobia problem is only getting worse under Keir Starmer, trans members say

How to talk about trans rights

Think being trans is a ‘trend’? Consider these 18th-century ‘female husbands’

Equalities minister allegedly referred to trans women as ‘men’ and mocked gay marriage in a leaked audio recording, report says


UK named alongside Russia, Poland and Hungary in damning LGBT+ hate report due to transphobia

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