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I don’t know why

I don’t know why I just want to cry The joy I felt. Just yesterday Gone aray Gone away My mood has taken A massive dive Dont know why I just want to cry I’m sorry to those Around me now I know I am a moody cow But my head and heart Feel weird …

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Friendship groups

This past week, and the events in London, have just brought into sharp focus that some of my so-called “friends” have not been as nice to Lilly as her friends have been to me. This has really made me think WTF these people were thinking about my partner??? More so what do they actually think …

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Don’t ask me what’s inside my pants

Don’t ask me what’s inside my pants because if you do you won’t like the answer! I’ve met quite a few people recently who after a few minutes of conversation, think it’s a valid question to ask a trans person, “So, I hope you don’t mind me asking but, what genitals do you have?” This …

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Traumas

You know what pisses me off when people say, “all the trauma you’ve been through in life, they must have made you stronger”. No. No they didn’t! All that trauma actually did was give me some very weird coping skills, a fucked up sense of humour and a lot of really nasty habits and kinks!

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What you see online

What you see online is only a representation of someone’s life, whether they be good or bad bits and doesn’t represent our daily lives. People look at my online life and say to me, “Oh my god Mikki, you have such a wonderful life”, but what you see online is only a small selection of …

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Token Gay Friend

Am I the token gay friend? I want to know as I’m meeting people who I find both emotionally and physically attractive but I always seem to end up as their “trans friend” or “gay friend” Which I guess, kind of makes me the token gay friend! Someone to confide in, someone to tell about …

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Really angry

Yet again another human being has let me down and you know what I’m really angry. I’m not angry with the other person, I’m angry with myself, for letting them inside my mental fortress again. I promised myself, after the last one, that I wouldn’t do it. I have my closed circle of friends and …

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How I deal with misgendering

I don’t get misgendered very often these days but this is how I deal with misgendering. Do it once, it’s annoying but okay! Do it twice, and beware, you’re on notice. Do it 3 times and I’ll distance myself from you so quickly you won’t believe it, and have done on numerous occasions. I’m four …

MikkiTiamo.com: Trans Dollar. Picture of $100 bills in a messy pile.

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Can you business afford to ignore the Transgender Dollar, or pound?

Let me ask you a serious question. Can your business afford to ignore the transgender dollar, or transgender pound? This is a question I keep asking myself, especially when I get stonewalled by businesses because I am transgender. As many transgender people are generally affluent and have money to spend in businesses, and some businesses …

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It’s not Transphobia. It’s Transmisia!

Let’s explain why transmisia should be used, as transphobia is perhaps not the right word for what some people show to the trans community. Let me explain this. A phobia, specifically transphobia, is the fear of something, in this case transgender people. Transgender people such as myself and many of my friends. This is more …